婆媳关系是家庭关系中的风向标，是已婚女性建立新家庭秩序过程中必须触及的敏感点。人都是在原生家庭关系中成长，又从原生家庭中分离出来，建立新的家庭，并同原生家庭保持联系，和谐家庭的观念始终根植在中国人的文化基因中。在妇女就业率高涨、提倡男女平等的当下社会，婚育问题很大程度上需要原生家庭给与支持，这使原生家庭与新建家庭之间的联系更加紧密。比起冲突为主的传统婆媳的相处模式，新时代的女性对待婆媳关系有更深层次的理解，好的婆媳关系能够主动融合家庭成员之间的亲密关系，也能够为家庭成员创造可靠的育儿辅助和优质的情感价值，更是成长型家庭获得福祉的活水源头。本研究基于16位受访者进行深度访谈，探究婆媳关系从冲突到调适的过程，分析主动维系好婆媳关系的原因及好婆媳关系对婆媳双方乃至家庭福祉的影响。本文尝试从积极心理学角度，重新定义和理解婆媳关系，挖掘婆媳双方内心的积极潜力，努力共同营造从冲突到调适再到协作的家庭氛围，充分发挥家庭组织的集体力量，成就整个家庭的福祉。研究发现，婆媳关系从冲突到调适、直至向好性发展，打破了传统的婆媳冲突的刻板印象，有效地规避了没有任何意义的内耗，重新定义积极的婆媳关系，从互利互惠、女性互助的角度，发掘婆媳关系主题研究的积极关系影响的新方向，完善对婆媳关系的积极性认知。本文为建构积极的婆媳关系提供了理论意义和现实依据。

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a weather vane in family relations and a sensitive point that married women must touch in the process of establishing a new family order.?People grow up in the original family relationship, separate from the original family, establish a new family, and keep in touch with the original family. The concept of a harmonious family is always rooted in the cultural genes of the Chinese people.?In the current society where the employment rate of women is high and equality between men and women is advocated, the problem of marriage and childbearing needs the support of the original family to a large extent, which makes the relationship between the original family and the new family closer.?Compared with the traditional mode of getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women in the new era have a deeper understanding of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can actively integrate the intimate relationship between family members. it can also create reliable parenting assistance and high-quality emotional value for family members, and it is also the source of well-being for growing families.Based on the in-depth interviews conducted by 16 interviewees, this study explores the process of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship from conflict to debugging, and analyzes the reasons for actively maintaining a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship and the impact of good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship on both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and even family well-being.?From the perspective of positive psychology, this paper attempts to redefine and understand the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, tap the positive potential of both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, strive to create a family atmosphere from conflict to debugging to cooperation, and give full play to the collective strength of family organization. achieve the well-being of the whole family.It is found that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law breaks the traditional stereotype of conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, effectively avoids the meaningless internal friction, and redefines the positive relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law from the perspective of mutual benefit and mutual assistance among women. from the perspective of mutual benefit and mutual assistance among women, we should explore the new direction of the influence of the positive relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and improve the positive cognition of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.?To provide theoretical significance and practical basis for the construction of a positive relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.